One of the more curious claims advanced by progressive theologians and LGBTQ-affirming Christians is that the biblical friendship between David and Jonathan was actually a romantic or even sexual relationship.
The reasoning? Their emotional closeness, covenantal loyalty, and David’s lament in 2 Samuel 1:26, where he says Jonathan’s love was “greater than the love of women.”
This argument is often put forward with a tone of confidence, implying that conservative Christians have overlooked a clear “queer narrative” right in the heart of the Old Testament. Some suggest that this account offers a biblical endorsement of same-sex love.
But as with so many progressive readings of Scripture, this claim is not grounded in sound interpretation—it’s built on conjecture, selective reading, and anachronistic ideology. It says more about our modern cultural confusion than it does about ancient Israel or the Word of God.
To refute this claim thoroughly, we must return to hermeneutics: the proper principles of interpreting Scripture. And we must do so with clarity, compassion, and courage—affirming both biblical truth and the true nature of godly friendship.
Hermeneutics: Guardrails Against Misinterpretation
Hermeneutics, from the Greek hermēneuein (to interpret), is the discipline of rightly understanding Scripture. It protects us from distorting the Bible into what we want it to say, and compels us to hear what God has actually said.
Key principles we will use:
- Literary context: Words must be read in their narrative flow.
- Historical and cultural context: Ancient Israel was not modern America.
- Lexical accuracy: What do the original Hebrew words actually mean?
- Authorial intent: What was the purpose of the writer under divine inspiration?
- Theological coherence: Scripture never contradicts itself.
- Christocentric lens: The Old Testament points forward to Christ, not modern ideologies.
With these principles, we’ll evaluate the claim that David and Jonathan were “gay lovers.”
The Progressive Claim
Here is how the argument typically goes:
David and Jonathan’s relationship was not just a friendship—it was romantic. They made a covenant, embraced and kissed, and David said Jonathan’s love was better than that of women. Since the Bible never condemns this relationship, it must have been good. Therefore, God affirms same-sex love.
This argument often hinges on three passages:
- 1 Samuel 18:1–4 – The “covenant” and gift of clothing.
- 1 Samuel 20:41 – Their emotional farewell, including weeping and kissing.
- 2 Samuel 1:26 – David’s lament: “Your love to me was extraordinary, surpassing the love of women.”
Progressives interpret these texts through a modern lens of sexual identity and emotional expression, which results in serious hermeneutical errors. Let’s walk through each text in context.
Hermeneutical Analysis
Immediate Literary Context
1. 1 Samuel 18:1–4 – A Covenant of Brotherhood, Not Romance
The soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. […] Then Jonathan made a covenant with David… Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was on him and gave it to David.
Progressive interpretation: This is romantic language; “knit souls” implies emotional or sexual intimacy.
Biblical context: These were covenantal, military expressions. Jonathan, the crown prince of Israel, recognizes David’s divine anointing and transfers his royal robe and weapons as a sign of allegiance. Ancient Near Eastern covenants often used such language of loyalty. There is no erotic undertone. “Loved him as his own soul” is parallel to Leviticus 19:18, “love your neighbor as yourself.”
This is not a romantic covenant—it’s a covenant of loyalty, like that between allies in battle.
2. 1 Samuel 20:41 – Kissing and Weeping
They kissed one another and wept with one another, David weeping the most.
Progressive interpretation: This shows romantic passion.
Biblical context: Kissing was a normal, non-sexual cultural greeting among men in the Ancient Near East (cf. Genesis 29:13; Exodus 4:27; Luke 15:20). Even today in Middle Eastern culture, same-sex kissing on the cheek is a common greeting and parting sign. Emotional weeping, especially in moments of grief and threat, was also culturally normative.
Jonathan had just risked his life for David. David was being hunted by Saul. Their tears and embrace reflect political tension and deep friendship, not sexual romance.
3. 2 Samuel 1:26 – “Your love was more wonderful than the love of women.”
Progressive interpretation: David preferred romantic love with Jonathan over women.
Biblical context: This is poetic language from a funeral lament. David is expressing the depth of loyal friendship and self-sacrifice—not sexual preference. David had multiple wives, including Abigail and Bathsheba, with whom he had sexual and romantic relations. His statement is not a denigration of women, but a reflection on Jonathan’s unmatched loyalty.
It’s worth noting: There is no mention of sexual activity in any of these passages. Progressive readers are importing modern assumptions into an ancient text.
Historical and Cultural Context
To read these passages properly, we must remember that ancient Israel was a deeply patriarchal, covenantal, and warrior-based society. Same-sex relations were considered morally abhorrent (Leviticus 18:22; 20:13). Had David and Jonathan engaged in a romantic or sexual relationship, it would have violated the Law of God and incurred severe consequences—especially since David was later blessed by God and described as “a man after His own heart” (1 Samuel 13:14).
Furthermore, the intense emotional bond between men was celebrated in warrior cultures, especially when lives were laid on the line for one another. It was not uncommon for ancient comrades-in-arms to share deep emotional bonds forged in combat.
To impose a 21st-century sexualized interpretation onto these texts is not only misguided—it’s a form of cultural imperialism.
Lexical and Grammatical Clarity
Let’s examine the Hebrew terms.
- “Loved him as his own soul” (’ahabah and nephesh) – These are standard terms for covenantal loyalty and personal affection. No sexual connotation is inherent in ’ahabah unless the context provides it (e.g., Song of Solomon).
- “Kissed” (nashaq) – The same word is used for familial greetings (Genesis 33:4; Genesis 45:15). It can mean respect or reverence (Psalm 2:12). It is not an inherently romantic act.
- “More wonderful than the love of women” – This is hyperbolic poetic speech, reflecting Jonathan’s sacrificial loyalty in a way that David may not have experienced from his wives.
In short, none of the terms require a romantic or erotic meaning.
Authorial Intent and Canonical Coherence
Would the inspired author of 1 and 2 Samuel—a text saturated with God’s covenantal purposes—sneak in a “hidden” same-sex relationship in violation of God’s Law and present it as virtuous?
Absolutely not. The books of Samuel are deeply theological, presenting David as the prototype of the coming Messiah—not as an anti-Torah radical.
And Scripture is consistent: every example of homosexual behavior is condemned (Leviticus 18:22; Romans 1:26–27; 1 Corinthians 6:9–10), and never affirmed.
This means the burden of proof lies with those who would claim otherwise. That burden has not—and cannot—be met.
Theological Coherence and Christological Trajectory
David’s life points to Christ in many ways:
- He is a shepherd-king (Psalm 23; John 10).
- He slays the giant as a type of victorious Messiah (1 Samuel 17).
- He is a man of repentance (Psalm 51).
- He foreshadows Christ’s covenant loyalty and faithfulness.
To drag a gay narrative into this story is to undermine the typology that connects David to Christ. Jesus came to fulfill the Law, not to violate it (Matthew 5:17). To insinuate that the man through whom God established the messianic line was involved in homosexual activity is not only unfounded—it’s blasphemous.
Rebutting the Misuse: What’s Really Going On?
Let’s consider why this argument has become so popular:
- Modern sexual confusion has conflated affection with eroticism.
In our oversexualized culture, deep affection between two people is often assumed to be sexual. But biblical categories allow for intimate non-sexual friendship. - Progressive ideology seeks to retrofit the Bible into LGBTQ narratives.
The goal is not to understand the text, but to use the text for affirmation. This is classic eisegesis—reading into the text what one wants to find. - There is a tragic poverty of real friendship in modern culture.
Genuine, sacrificial same-sex friendships are rare today. The church must do better at encouraging deep, chaste relationships that reflect God’s love. - It distracts from real biblical teaching on sexuality.
The David-Jonathan argument is often a red herring to obscure clear teachings in Leviticus, Romans, and 1 Corinthians. - It misrepresents Christ.
Jesus did not come to affirm sinners in their delusions, but to call them to repentance and life (Luke 5:32).
Redeeming Real Friendship
David and Jonathan’s story is not about erotic love—it’s about covenant loyalty and godly friendship. And that is something desperately needed today.
We must teach young people that:
- It is possible to love someone of the same sex deeply, sacrificially, and chastely.
- Brotherhood and sisterhood in Christ are rich biblical categories.
- Real friendship involves loyalty, truth-telling, and sacrifice—not lust and self-gratification.
In fact, Jesus is the truest friend:
“Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.”
—John 15:13
He does not affirm our sin—He lays down His life to rescue us from it.
Conclusion: Friendship, Not Fantasy
The claim that David and Jonathan were gay lovers has no basis in the text, the language, the culture, or the theology of Scripture. It is a projection of modern desires onto ancient truth.
Proper hermeneutics demolish this argument by restoring biblical categories:
- Loyalty is not lust.
- Affection is not eroticism.
- Love is not license.
The Bible celebrates covenant friendship—and it condemns homosexual behavior as sin. Both truths can coexist.
Let us train the next generation to love God’s Word, to seek godly friendships, and to reject false teaching with grace and courage. David and Jonathan are not proof of sexual rebellion. They are examples of brotherly love—and of the King who would come from David’s line to save us all.
S.D.G.,
Robert Sparkman
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